“Me Versus Myself”: A Poem About Letting Go

V.M.

This poem was inspired by my ongoing internal struggle of being stuck between my ED and longing for recovery. It’s a reminder to myself that I can do hard things and that, if I am willing to let go of the life raft (which is a metaphor for my ED describing how it simultaneously keeps me afloat, yet slowly drowns me) and reach for the ladder (recovery), freedom and a much more fulfilling life is waiting for me. Although letting go of my ED is terrifying, I need to trust in myself. Recovery is possible. This poem was written after multiple failed attempts to get back into recovery, following my most recent and prolonged relapse. While I'm still struggling to "let go of the life raft", thanks to the support of some incredible women, I'm closer than I've ever been to taking the leap of faith into recovery once again. 

This poem is dedicated to Dr. Michelle Emmerling, Kalin Herbach and Vera Baraz, for being lighthouses in my life, gently guiding me to a safe harbour. It is also dedicated to everyone struggling with an ED, may you find peace and freedom soon.

Me Versus Myself 

When?

Will you wake up and realize,

The years of your life

That you've wasted treading water

In the tumultuous seas of self hate?

As your exhausted body finally says

"fuck you"

Gives up

And starts to

d

   r

     o

       w

         n

Slowly sinking under

Heavy waters of despair

You hear a distant voice call out

Encouraging you to let go of the life raft

You've been desperately grasping onto

So tightly, for so long

Your hands are raw.

Trust.

And let go

Reach for the ladder

Swinging from the helicopter

Hovering above the violent seas

Of your insecurities

Waiting to rescue you -

From yourself.

It's truly the only way

If you would just trust yourself

To let go

For just one millisecond

And make that leap of faith

You could free yourself

From the tsunami of fears

The hurricanes of pain

That you keep self-inflicting

Upon your tired body and weary mind.

Yes, the unknown is terrifying,

And your unfounded insecurities

are quick to overwhelm

Yet, when will you realise, sister? 

That everything you need:

The courage

The strength to let go

And break free

Was always inside of you

It's been there all along

You just have to believe

With your whole heart,

And trust in yourself:

Be Brave.

with a capital B.

You've got this, sister

So,

Let go. 

Freedom is waiting for you

On the other side.

-V.M.